As Dan Taylor points out in his book, The Parent Care Conversation, the person using this excuse doesn’t want to open themselves to a law suit from relatives who will criticize them over their care for the elderly parent.
This is another excuse Dan Taylor talks about in The Parent Care Conversation and one that I can relate to. We never talked with my father-in-law about his future plans. We never even thought about it.
This is the central problem with home care for the elderly. As their facilities and strength diminish, how will they manage their lives, and if they can’t who will?
This is an eldercare problem I wish everybody had. This has not been my personal experience.
One of the easiest situations Dan Taylor describes in his book, The Parent Conversation, is that of an only child. Their excuse is that it is too overwhelming for one person.
Sometimes family members become estranged. If the relationship with a parent was never close it just adds to the complexity of planning for their care. Elder care is not easy under the best of circumstances. Here are two suggestions to overcome this challenge.
One of the reasons that planning for elder care is not done is the reluctance of both parents and children to talk about money. Dan Taylor in his book The Parent Conversation is very insightful about this aspect of elder care.
This is another excuse for not doing anything. Accepting this reason is fraught with danger.
Planning makes elder care easier. Not planning, for any reason, just makes things worse.
Yesterday I shared some of the excuses not to plan for elder care that Dan Taylor wrote about in his book, The Parent Care Conversation. The reality is that if you accept an excuse now you will pay a heavier price later. It may be much more costly to deal with certain problems and some [...]