If you don’t want to hire someone from an agency but would prefer to do it yourself to save some money you have to make sure you cover yourself. Actually, I can not see any reason to hire someone directly. Can you do a background check? Do you want to go on a gut feeling [...]
One of the things we were able to do for my father-in-law was to give him three summers living semi-independently in his home in Massachusetts. He could still perform the activities of daily living so that wasn’t an issue. The big problem was transportation. There is no public transportation and we removed the car.
I was at a luncheon the other day and I spoke with two sons-in-law from two different families about their experiences with elder care. Their stories perfectly illustrate the two different approaches to home care for the elderly.
In trying to come to grips with home care for an elderly parent, planning in advance goes a long way to making the whole process less stressful. Talking to your parents about what they want is immeasurably useful. In the previous post, I looked at two suggestions that Dan Taylor uses in his book, The [...]
In previous posts I wrote about the excuses we use not to plan for elder care. The 70/40 rule of thumb developed by Home Instead states that if your parent is 70 years of age or older and you are 40 years of age or older, you need to talk, you need to plan.
As Dan Taylor points out in his book, The Parent Care Conversation, the person using this excuse doesn’t want to open themselves to a law suit from relatives who will criticize them over their care for the elderly parent.
This is another excuse Dan Taylor talks about in The Parent Care Conversation and one that I can relate to. We never talked with my father-in-law about his future plans. We never even thought about it.
This is the central problem with home care for the elderly. As their facilities and strength diminish, how will they manage their lives, and if they can’t who will?
This is an eldercare problem I wish everybody had. This has not been my personal experience.
One of the easiest situations Dan Taylor describes in his book, The Parent Conversation, is that of an only child. Their excuse is that it is too overwhelming for one person.