I was at a luncheon the other day and I spoke with two sons-in-law from two different families about their experiences with elder care. Their stories perfectly illustrate the two different approaches to home care for the elderly.
In trying to come to grips with home care for an elderly parent, planning in advance goes a long way to making the whole process less stressful. Talking to your parents about what they want is immeasurably useful. In the previous post, I looked at two suggestions that Dan Taylor uses in his book, The [...]
In previous posts I wrote about the excuses we use not to plan for elder care. The 70/40 rule of thumb developed by Home Instead states that if your parent is 70 years of age or older and you are 40 years of age or older, you need to talk, you need to plan.
As Dan Taylor points out in his book, The Parent Care Conversation, the person using this excuse doesn’t want to open themselves to a law suit from relatives who will criticize them over their care for the elderly parent.
This is another excuse Dan Taylor talks about in The Parent Care Conversation and one that I can relate to. We never talked with my father-in-law about his future plans. We never even thought about it.